My Beautiful Funny Friend…
Monday, February 13th, 2012
I had a call last week from a lady, telling me that a dear friend of ours, ‘Stella’ had passed on.
It was a terrible shock, I had only spoken to her the week before. I did know that she had been quite ill those past weeks, we had been talking about it then, but we didn’t think it was life threatening at the time. I was planning to pop up to see her in her hometown in the coming weeks, and have a girly night in, chatting over a bottle of wine/pizza, watch a dvd etc.
I am still in disbelief, it was just so sudden, and unexpected. When a ‘lady’ leaves this mortal coil, I hate how people jump to conclusions about how they died. So, though I’m not going into details, I will tell you that she certainly wasn’t the type to ‘party’. Far too smart and sensible for that. It was a sudden condition that could have happened to anyone. She was only 37. It’s just not fair!
We met about 6yrs ago when I first came online, she was known as ‘Indi’ then, and she was very friendly and helpful to me in my new online foray. After a few weeks, along with Eleanor A, we planned a night out. The three of us had a good fun night, excitedly chatting away for ever, and we stayed good friends through the years. Eleanor isn’t around (working) at the moment, but some people may remember a bodypainted photo in homage to the Bond film ‘Quantum of Solace’?
Indi and I bodypainted her, together! I made the logo stencil and brought my body make up kit.
‘I’ll do the left leg, arm and bum cheek, you do the right?’ I said.
We both took photos of Eleanor for her site, we all took photos of each other at times, and had great fun doing them.
Between the three of us, Indi had the most beautiful cutesy face, Eleanor had the most amazingly fit figure, I was somewhere inbetween, with the ordinary face and ordinary figure! Oh well…hahaha!
Indi was gorgeous, friendly, easy-going, smart, sensible, really funny, very creative and a talented ‘techy geek’. She always said that she was a geek…I was quite in awe of her techy skills, she didn’t need a webmaster, or any help, she could do it all by herself, and she did. She took this other talent afar, and had another very successful business too, right up until now.
She told me that she missed her naughty bits though…’I'm doing really well with the PR, but I need to touch a naked man, and bloody soon!’
And we laughed…and planned a new photoshoot/ a new site, etc. She had to back out of the shoot because of her other business…this is the reason that I had new photos in Nov!? I took her place.
We had ‘shared’ quite a few visitors in the past too, I had suggested her to some boys, she had suggested me to some boys! I was super thrilled that she was coming back, I was so excited for her, and did a blogpost about her return.
(I have removed the full name mentions/posts and links on here now, for obvious google reasons.)
The best ladies never feel territorial in this sector, we are very happy to suggest other lovelies that you would like, too. Indi/Stella was certainly one of the Best Ladies. No agenda, just a lovely woman who brought joy and happiness to many people. No one ‘online’ has ever had a bad word about her, ever. I have only just managed to reset my password on Pnet, or I would have posted there too…(tried and failed to log in about 100 times…I haven’t posted there for ages!), so thanks Charlotte D, for that lovely thread. Hope to chat more with you soon…xxx.
I’m going to say goodbye to her soon, but it’s never going to be ‘goodbye’ really. She will always be in my thoughts and memories, she was my wonderful, funny, lovely friend. A real true friend. You don’t meet them often. I want to call her by her real name, but I can’t do that here. I’m going to miss her so very much. I found this photo, and thought it was perfect for my memories of her.
I loved her. I love her.
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we are still
Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way you always used
Put no difference into your tone
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes we always enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effort
Without the ghost of a shadow in it
Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is absolute unbroken continuity
What is death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind
Because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you for an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner
All is well.
Nothing is past; nothing is lost
One brief moment and all will be as it was before
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
