My Friend Is Sleeping
I knew that my last blog was going to be a passion killer, but I still wanted to document my friend, tell you a bit about her. I did have a couple of weeks off, just thinking about her, watching her videoblog late at night, looking at photos of her, talking out loud to her, reading her, reading others comments about her…etc. All good. Had little cries here and there, and laughed a lot too!
Her filming of her herb garden, so daft!
‘This is a fish tank herb garden..that’s the basil, I love basil! This is dill…’
Then someone comes in.
‘Come in, be quiet. I’m filming..’ and then hearing the noises of the other person.
It’s not even meant to be funny, but I was rolling about laughing. Filming herbs growing! With commentary! And being disturbed! Hahahaha! So daft.
I went to her funeral last week.
Three of us were going together, meeting others there.
I got the flowers together, a ‘cushion’ design with red/pink/purple flowers and pink ribboned frame. I put one purple flower in with her, and have pressed a pink orchid for keeps.
We set off in the car at 8.30am for the 1pm service, up north.
It took over 3hrs to exit London, alone! Eventually…we got into town. A very nice place.
Then..the church name and street…oops. Three churches with the same name, two streets with the same name, not near one another either! We just made it…phew!
The church was packed out, we needed to sit on the extra chairs in an aisle. It was great to see how many people really loved her! That was lovely.
The order of service had the most gorgeous photo of her on it, I was wowed! I’m going to frame it.
The minister was fantastic, he added some very personal quips, she was a local girl, and he knew her well, he said. He had lost his own daughter early too.
The music was personal, but we did sing some hymms too.
Then..it was time to watch her leaving the church.
Oh God, it was so surreal, knowing that she was in that casket, passing by us.
I had a cry then, we all did. I’d forgotten the waterproof mascara too, but I couldn’t care less.
She wasn’t going far, just out to the churchyard. Some people have to go far out of town don’t they?
There were several ‘fresh beds’ beside her. I wanted to think that she had some new friends…and she would be saying…
‘Hello! Did you just get here before me? I’ve only been here a few hours..’
She would be in the new place, putting the kettle on, organising everyone!
And looking at us, smiling at us, making fun of us all crying.
I hope to find that out to be true, some day.
I’m going to visit her in summer, when she’s all settled in. I’ll have a good chat with her too.
Some ladies and I are going to meet up for an evening soon, in honour of that wonderful girl. If you are reading this, lets plan it soon? Her birthday is coming up…? Even if you didn’t meet her, you’re welcome. We’ll tell you all how fab she is/was.




March 1st, 2012 at 8:40 am
So much here is, of necessity, or not, false, thart it is good to find the truth sometimes. It is right to mourn a while, then look up and smile again, without forgetting whoever which is gone.
March 3rd, 2012 at 3:06 pm
I’m so sorry, I know what a special lady she was and how you must be missing her. xx
March 3rd, 2012 at 7:54 pm
Dolly your blog has made me smile and cry at the same time. Truely beautiful about a lovely lady. Please count me in for that evening of memories.
Hugs
Penny x x x
March 7th, 2012 at 9:42 pm
Thanks peeps, it means a lot. She was such a joyful person, really helpful, kind and considerate to others. She was really, really loved very much too.
I will mail you very soon about a get tog! xxx